Thoughtful Conversations About Whiteness with Good Friends and Cats

Episode Summary

My guest today is the divine Devi Ward.  She is the Founder of the Institute of Authentic Tantra Education, is the host of the podcast Sex is Medicine, is an author and has been featured as a Tantra and Female Sexuality Expert in countless articles and over 30 different radio and television networks world-wide.  We will be exploring what it means to look at the white race in relation to racism, why it is uncomfortable for white people to talk about race and how we are mostly uninformed and uneducated when it comes to discussions about race, even with the best of intentions.  It is my hope to open up a conversation about this to normalize it so more conversations start happening, which will affect bigger change.  I want to bridge the taboo gap by sharing experiences and truths to help us all discover where we may have been misled or misplaced in our own upbringing or experience.  The cats are there because as Devi has said previously when engaging in these conversations, cats make everything better.

Show Notes:

This episode was the most vulnerable I’ve been and that is exactly what drives me to share it with the world.  We as white people need to push past those feelings of vulnerability in regard to race and seek out the very best ways that we can implement change in a system entrenched in extreme bias and privilege.  My guest shares very deep wounds as a result of racial trauma and I’m so grateful to her for opening up in such a public platform to share her experience with us about the very real impact it has had on her life.  Thank you for holding the space for her to put a voice to these wounds.  Please do check out the very valuable resources listed below.  I will tell you right not that since doing my own research for this interview I have had several conversations that have led to others discovering the importance of becoming educated and talking with their children early on.  I just returned from a powerful retreat experience where I offered my Awakening Your Life Force workshop and surfing lessons as a piece to the whole movement.  What we talked about most is how the reaction we may feel listening to another’s experience can be a very helpful tool as a mirror or reflection of ourselves to explore.  I encourage you to listen with an open mind and heart that is really willing to look past your personal experience and into the much deeper wound racism has inflicted on our entire culture.  

  • Our history, how we met
  • The system is broken
  • Receiving the message that I was defective, “If I would have been born 5 years earlier I would have been illegal”
  • Childhood education, deep-seeded beliefs
  • Exploring the belief that if you talk about race, you are racist
  • Color blindness and the destructive outcome in that school of thought
  • Dominant culture sets the values of that culture
  • Generational trauma of racism
  • Racial trauma, family trauma, growing up bi-racial in an affluent white neighborhood
  • The almost fatal result of the accumulative trauma of being a person of color in America
  • The danger of the binary assumption the a bad person is racist and a good person is not.
  • Racism if the air we breathe, it’s not personal
  • Test your implicit bias
  • Systemic barriers demonstrated in a bird cage analogy
  • The structure is a reflection of the mind, change starts within
  • Who is your dream guest and why?

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Molly McCord Might Just Narrate Your Life: Astrology, Divinity and You!

Episode Summary

My guest today is the magically inspiring Molly McCord.  She is a bestselling author of ten books with over 50,000 downloads, intuitive astrologer, business strategist, radio show host, and modern consciousness teacher.  She is a practicing intuitive astrologer who has connected with thousands of clients in over 30 countries, and she hosts a popular intuitive astrology podcast twice a week.  We will dive into the beautiful gifts she offers the world with her astrological knowledge and intuitive messages, our own unique intuitive abilities, the support natal charts can offer, the power of 2020 astrology, mercury retrogrades, divine timing and more.

Show Notes:

We will be celebrating the divine magic in humans by exploring our divinity and the abundance in our astrological connections.  Molly McCord sees you: the divinity, the potential, the growth, the magic.  She wants you to fulfill your soul’s mission by sharing her vast knowledge of astrology and the spot on downloads and messages she receives from her guides.  She will come back time and again and assure you that you are exactly where you need to be and that the your life is unfolding with perfect timing.  We are going to explore this and the wild ride we are all taking in 2020 and this new powerfully expansive decade!  If you ever wanted to know about eclipses, retrogrades and divine timing stick around! This is going to be so much FUN!  Also, I’d like to note that during the taping of the episode I mispronounced Chani Nicholas’s name when we covered the dream guest topic and that is the reason Molly did not know who I was referring to.  Molly definitely knows Chani.  I’m so sorry for my slip up to Molly and to Chani, two of our greatest astrologers who are putting magic out and changing the world!

  • Our history, how we met
  • Astrology is my religion, you are my church
  • Molly McCord is a badass
  • Intuitive magic – developing your own unique intuition muscle
  • Natal charts – what they can reveal and how to work with them
  • 2020 astrology and the powerful new decade
  • Mercury retrogrades – how to make them work for you
  • Divine timing
  • Who is your dream guest and why?

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Premature, How Parental Intuition and HypnoBirthing Maintained a Sacred Birth Experience in the Fear-Based Birthing System of America

Episode Summary

My guests today are the inspirational Heidi Schmidgall and Kristin Carver. They will be talking about how they successfully protected their birth and maintained it as a celebratory, sacred and spiritual occasion despite being surprised with an early term labor and birth, an experience where our conventional birthing system leans toward medical intervention. This important conversation is not just for parents, it’s for everyone.  We will begin to shed light on how we create our world through the way we support our birthing mothers and families. There’s definitely heart and humor in this beautifully woven story that unfolds.

Show Notes:

We will hear from a mother and father that were thrust into a fear and intervention based system when their waters broke at 34 weeks pregnant.  They will be talking about how they successfully protected their birth and maintained it as a celebratory, sacred and spiritual occasion.  I will be touching on the gravity of how we treat birth in this culture and how it creates, changes and shapes who we are as humans.  We’ll get a glimpse of their intimate birth journey where they remained the principal decision-makers in their birth.  We will also chat about the role their independent hypnobirthing class and preparation played and how they worked together in becoming a strong and unified family when being faced with surprising turns in their birth journey.

  • Our history, how we met
  • HypnoBirthing® Childbirth Education Class
  • A look at how language is empowering or disempowering
  • How childbirth education can become education for life
  • “You’re Not Allowed to Not Allow Me”
  • Psycho-physical association
  • Heidi and Carver’s birth story
  • Epigenetics
  • How conception shapes who we become as adults
  • Anna Verwaal and “aha” moment quotes
  • A beautiful, magic and empowering birth
  • Pelvic floor therapy support for postpartum healing
  • Who is your dream guest and why?

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Laughter is Medicine, How Kandyce August Answered the Call to Comedy

Episode Summary:

My guest today is the warm and hilarious Kandyce August.  Oh my gosh y’all. For anyone who knows me and for all of you getting to know me, comedy is my life blood. Out of all the healthcare that I study and practice, I devoutly believe laughter is our best medicine. That’s why I couldn’t be more excited for this impromptu episode today. We get to hear one person’s path to not only gettin her funny on, but also how she answered the call to sharing it with the world.

Show Notes:

We will be talking about how Kandyce August found her funny, the support that paved the way toward her pursuing comedy and how she flows geographically.  We will find what’s at the heart of comedy for her, if she’s ever bombed and how that shapes her performance, the true meaning of joy in comedy and so much more!  This is a series I have started because I truly believe in the power of laughter and I am in awe of the vulnerability comics embrace as they offer up that part of themselves to spark joy.  A series of raw, unfiltered stories that tap into the path to pursuing comedy.

  • When did you find you’re funny?
  • Family of performers
  • Localism becomes bits
  • Tangible steps toward becoming a comic
  • Women in comedy
  • Breaking barriers by being in self-competition
  • “I just want to be loved”
  • Travel + comedy + day job = perfection
  • Favorite performance
  • Play to the crowd
  • Live Kandyce August joke about Portland, Oregon
  • Have you bombed?
  • How does grief affect the comedic process?
  • “Pain + time = comedy”
  • Suffering is universal
  • Raising the vibration – feeling our human magic
  • Who would your dream guest be and why? (It’s a BIG one!)

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Dedicated To The Ones Who Love Us The Most, Our Animals, Part 2

Episode Summary:

My guest today is the marvelous Mia Bonnadonna, Animal Behavioral Consultant and Trainer. We are taking a deeper look at animal behavioral training, animal death doulas and the reality of animal rescue.  We will break down truths for the dogs, the cats, the rescue workers and adoptive families.  We will also shed light on the role of an animal death doula and how much support you and your animal can receive through that difficult transition.

Show Notes:

We are taking a deeper look at animal behavioral training, animal death doulas and the reality of animal rescue.  We will break down the truths for the dogs, the cats, the rescue workers and adoptive families.  We will talk about the many moving puzzle pieces that go into rescue work and about ways to increase awareness and support through adoption transitions for everyone involved.  With the growing awareness of humane animal behavioral training, we will break down what to look for when seeking out a qualified trainer and my guest will shed some light on long used techniques that may be outdated and fear-based.  And finally we will shed light on the role of animal death doula.  We will look at how much support you and your animal can receive through that difficult time.

  • Success of the foster-based, all-breed, no-kill animal rescue model
  • Increasing success with the addition of humane dog behaviorists and trainers
  • There are many ways to get involved in animal rescue
  • Animal welfare fatigue – the dangerous impact of upsetting social media posts
  • The role of animal death doulas
  • The Big Sky Workshop – a beautiful workshop to become an animal death doula
  • “Every good moment is everything to them.”  The impact of changing one animal’s entire life
  • Behavioral euthanasia – the pain, the support, the way to honor them
  • Special needs pets need extra supportive environments
  • Survivors guilt from the loss of a pet
  • Fire inhumane trainers – signs to look for if the person you hired does not know or adhere to the science of humane animal training.
  • Who would your dream guest be and why?

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Dedicated To The Ones Who Love Us The Most, Our Animals, Part 1

Episode Summary

My guest today is the marvelous Mia Bonnadonna, Animal Behavioral Consultant and Trainer. We are taking a deeper look at animal behavioral training, animal death doulas and the reality of animal rescue.  We will break down truths for the dogs, the cats, the rescue workers and adoptive families.  We will also shed light on the role of an animal death doula and how much support you and your animal can receive through that difficult transition.

Show Notes:

We are taking a deeper look at animal behavioral training, animal death doulas and the reality of animal rescue.  We will break down the truths for the dogs, the cats, the rescue workers and adoptive families.  We will talk about the many moving puzzle pieces that go into rescue work and about ways to increase awareness and support through adoption transitions for everyone involved.  With the growing awareness of humane animal behavioral training, we will break down what to look for when seeking out a qualified trainer and my guest will shed some light on long used techniques that may be outdated and fear-based.  And finally we will shed light on the role of animal death doula.  We will look at how much support you and your animal can receive through that difficult time.

  • Dog and cat statistics, shelters, adoptions, breeders, euthanasia
  • Educate young through children’s books and media
  • Mia’s first exposure to human animal training
  • Mia’s animal trainer education
  • Puppy and kitten kindergarten classes
  • One on one adult behavior training
  • Dog socialization vs. desensitization
  • Scarcity of human animal trainers
  • Training humans
  • Scientific data for human animal training
  • Stress signals in animals
  • Animal trainers increase success in animal rescue

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The Future Is Here So Listen Up

Episode Summary

My guests today are Hana and Mira, two socially conscious, thoughtful and engaged teens! We’ll be hearing the unfiltered thoughts of the beautiful growing expansive minds from these two brave and courageous souls from Generation Z.

Show Notes:

We’ll be hearing the unfiltered thoughts of the beautiful growing expansive minds of two of my favorites from Generation Z. We will dive into their perceptions of the current political climate, our climate change crisis, mental healthcare, gender identity and so much more!  I want to hear about their passions, drives and desires as they are coming of age in this technologically driven, politically divisive and sometimes fear inducing nation.

  • Navigating high school systems, online vs. private vs. public
  • Mental health in the school system
  • The consequences of social media on mental health
  • Safety with public transportation
  • Does voting make a difference?
  • Climate change crisis
  • Greta Thunberg
  • School walkouts
  • Gender identity, pronoun usage
  • Sexual Identity in peer groups and at home
  • Safety on social media
  • Dating in high school
  • Who would your ideal guest be and why?

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Online Dating For Old Timers

Online Dating For Old Timers

Episode Summary

My guest today is the lovely Amy Rehagen!  We are exploring our now mainstream world of online dating from a generation who began romancing IRL and have now been thrust into the age of digital connection.

Show Notes:

We are exploring our now mainstream world of online dating from a generation who began romancing IRL and have now been thrust into the age of digital connection. We are going to discuss the acquired taste of online dating, not just how to survive, but how to thrive in today’s fast-paced, distraction-filled and sometimes isolating world of technology and romance. And we’ll probably hear some really great stories along the way!  I’d like to note that I said the wrong name in regard to The Law of Fuck Yes or No.  It was not coined by Marc Maron, it was coined by Mark Manson.  I like Marc Maron for lots of reasons as well so they are both worth a listen to!

  • Wisdom that comes with age and how to apply it to dating
  • How online dating has affected the ability to meet in real life
  • Online dating is a flaky business
  • Sex and the City example
  • Mark Manson’s law of fuck yes or no
  • Honesty in online dating
  • Transitioning relationships and healthy dating
  • Elizabeth Gilbert love
  • Downfall of the accessibility of online dating
  • The vulnerability in online dating
  • The downfall of expectation and ghosting
  • Difficulty in being present with technology
  • Putting intention into dating profiles and swiping
  • Paying for online dating, putting intention into investing
  • The physical energy of meeting in real life vs. online
  • Bad online dates
  • How do we make online dating work for us in a healthy way?
  • Main rules for self-preservation
  • Being open to all types of human connection in online dating
  • Timing in online dating
  • The value in not settling
  • Finding healthy compromise in relationships
  • Sweet online dating stories
  • Who would your ideal guest be and why?

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